Thursday, 27 November 2014


At 17, my boyfriend, Nigel, contracted meningococcal Meningitis. Just a few days later, he passed away.

There are a lot of things etched in my mind from that diffiicult time but by far the most positive and uplifting is a message from Nigel's Dad. He encouraged us, Nigel's friends, to draw life and hope from the tragic event; to go out and live life to the full, and to realise our goals and ambitions in memory of him.

In the years immediately after, I carried this thought with me at all times and had it in the forefront of my mind whenever I came to make a decision. I made a conscious effort to say 'yes' to opportunities that came my way and pushed that bit harder towards all of the things I wanted to do.

More recently, however, I have verged on being apathetic and that voice inside me shouting 'Life's too short!' isn't so loud.

Today, on what would have marked Nigel's 25th birthday, I'd like to renew that little vow I made almost eight years ago and start making more of an effort to embrace life again, to live it to the fullest. My body may not work quite as well as it used to and my goals and ambitions may have to take on slightly different form, but there are still endless opportunities I can say 'yes' to if I look in the right places. The inspirational achievements of those in similar situations to myself serve as a wonderful daily reminder of this. Over the next few months, I'm going to give myself that extra push I've been needing towards some of my new revamped goals and in the process, I hope, pay tribute to Nigel in the best way I know how.

My hope in writing this post is not to evoke pity or sympathy but to remind myself, and I suppose anyone who happens to read it, that life is short and precious and should be made the absolute most of accordingly.

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1 comment

    Life can be so short for some sweetheart and I am not reading your blog in any order thou yet again you have my admiration for how far to date you have come. Also to Nigel's father,and his advice given to you & friends to draw life & hope from such tragic events after the loss of his son. Take care and keep your light shining x. Loves xoxo


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